The Lies You Tell…

Disclaimer before we start, I don’t know the answers to many questions in life. In fact, I am learning each and every day. My goal with this platform is to share my life, struggles and to let you know that you are not the only person that has those thoughts (or maybe I am the only person that has some of these thoughts 🤷🏿‍♀️). 

One area I HAVE struggled with is listening to lies about myself. Thankful it is not an area I struggle with as much anymore but sometimes this bad habit sneaks it’s ugly rear head around that time of the month (ladies, y’all know what I am talking about). Am I the only person that is so hard, mean and downright ugly to themselves around a particular time of the month? Even my dreams are horrible around that time… we are still praying for deliverance in this area. But I will say that I have started to notice this bad habit so I catch it early on and stop it right there in its tracks and return to sender, the enemy (the devil, I don’t have enemies on this earth). 

You may be thinking, what on earth is she talking about? I am just talking about  negative thoughts. Why is it so easy for us to believe the negative things people say about us or the negative things we say about ourselves? Why do we believe the enemy’s lies more than we believe the truth God speaks over our life? Why do I hear the negative talk of the enemy so LOUDLY and effortlessly but I can have to work so hard to hear God’s voice (just me?)? 

I can run down a list of things people (and myself) have said about me that I have believed at one point in my life. 

1. I am fat
2. I am not a good friend
3. I am too emotional 
4. Nobody will want to be with me because of… (multitude of  the reasonings). 
5. I am not good enough

Just to name a few…

I am not sure why I have outgrown those thoughts, 

Is it that I am older and wiser? 

More self-aware?

Have I seen these people’s true colors and realize they have no right to place judgment on me?

Realized that these people do not know me and I know myself better than them?

Or is it that I just don’t care what people have to say?

Whatever the reasoning, I am doing better and I do not dwell on these thoughts for long periods of time like I have done in the past. Don’t get me wrong, like I said above, around the time of the month, my whole life sucks (Lol), yes I am being dramatic, but that’s how it feels like at times but thankfully I have acquired tools to fight these thoughts/ issues.  

Some of these tools include; 

1. Therapy
2. My Tribe- Surrounding myself with people that truly love me and speak life into me. 
3. Quiet time- Reading my Bible, praying and listening to God. 
4. Stop comparison 
5. Knowing the truth 

Over the next month, I will be going into more detail about some of these various tools so look out for them. 

I hope they bless you in one way or another.

Till next time, 

Love always, 

Shayo.