How’s the week been? I’ll be honest, I’ve been dragging a little this week. I am feeling a tad bit run down, so I am going to make sure I am well taken care of this weekend with some self-love.
I want to take the time to thank everyone who is reading and showing me so much love on my blog! The amount of support I have received is so unreal and I am grateful. I have gotten many comments about how vulnerable I was on my previous post about dealing with disappointment. People have asked if it was hard for me to write, or they have stated they didn’t think they could have been so open. To be honest, I had to go back and read what I wrote because I was not sure what everyone was talking about!
I am a fairly private person, even though it may not appear that way, being that I am sharing my life through this blog. But I am also a very honest person. I may not share information up front without being asked; however, if I am asked, I will definitely be honest. I know no other way. Sometimes, I have told myself not to share certain things or others have told me not share certain things about myself because not everyone needs to know and not everyone has the best intentions for me. Please believe, I understand that! But I don’t know any other way to be than to be honest. All this to say, in my “Dealing With Disappointment” post, I was just speaking and sharing from my heart because I truly believed it would help someone – and I think it did.
The more I write these weekly posts, the clearer it becomes as to which direction I want to take this blog (I think!), and that is to let YOU know that you are never alone. I want my life to be a representation that we are all dealing with something. A lot of times, when we are going through hard times, we think we are in it alone and that no one has ever gone through our current dilemma, or that no one would understand our struggle; however, that is so far from the truth. I cannot even count how many times I have opened up to someone and they tell me, “Oh girl, I have been there,” or “Oh, I have experienced that,” or “Me, too!”
And I think to myself, How come you never shared?
The more this comes up, the more I realize we can all help each other through these challenges in life. And yes, I am writing this from a better place emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally (PRAISE GOD) so it is easier for me to speak about challenges now. But I also know that my life will not be free from troubles nor challenges, and I want to be able to share these things so that you can feel comfortable in sharing your troubles and challenges as well.
You know how quick we are to share good news? We don’t hesitate to call up that family member, friend or significant other when we get that raise at work. When we get engaged. When we get a promotion. Or when that one thing we had been striving for falls into place. However, we go silent when we lose our job, when the relationship isn’t going well, when we are very depressed and run down. Why is that? Why can’t we run to our friends and family during the hard times like we do during the joyous occasions? Why do we wait till we are in a better place to share?
I am guilty of this myself. And it’s because it is HARD! Who wants to be that vulnerable? Who wants to burden someone else with their problems? I get that, please believe I do. I said this exact thing to my therapist a couple of months ago when she encouraged me to open up to my friends (which I did, and it was such a relief).
We have been programmed to suffer in silence and then rejoice in a group and I want to challenge this way of thinking. I have talked with so many friends who share their struggles after the fact, even though during their “struggles,” we were in communication and they did not share and I did not pick up on it. This could be a reflection of how unintuitive I am, but also how good they are at masking their feelings – something I am guilty of, too.
My point today is to tell you that you are never alone so don’t act like you are alone during these tough times. Find a person or group to share with and you will be pleasantly surprised to realize that you are not alone in your struggles. According to Ecclesiastes 1:9-10, “History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new. Sometimes people say, “Here is something new!” But actually it is old; nothing is ever truly new.”
Reading this verse just reinforces that my situation is not that unique. The specific details are unique to my story but I can guarantee you that someone else has been through something similar and could give me advice, walk with me, pray with and for me, and give me some hope that I will survive this hardship and come out standing on the other side.
On the other hand, when I suffer internally, I might end up dealing with something for much longer than I need to, all because I didn’t want to share. You know that friend you called last time you received good news? Call her or him when you are not feeling good. This starts a cycle. Your friend can be there for you during this bump in the road, and when your friend is in need, you can provide that support for them.
Another reason you are never alone is because God is always with you! I know personally that there have been times where I have felt distant from God and wondered if God knew I existed. I wish I could tell you that I hear God speak to me on a regular basis and I wish I could give you tips on how to hear from God, but I am still learning myself. One thing I have been told to do is to sit in His presence and He will speak to me. Well, you see, my problem is that I talk too much…I’m still working on this! I do know that He is my Heavenly Father and He wants the best for me. There are times when I don’t see any action or even feel His presence but deep inside, I remind myself that He is working it all out for my good.
During the midst of a struggle, that can be a hard truth to believe, but sometimes you have to repeat it until you start believing it. If I am completely honest with myself, when I take my eyes off my “struggle” at the time and look around, I see His presence in the day-to-day things of life. I am reminded of His presence in a song I hear, or in something someone says, or something I read or see. I can chalk it up to coincidence but if you truly believe God is in control, you know there are no coincidences. Speaking of songs, Tori Kelly’s “Never Alone ” (link above) is a great song to listen to you when you can’t feel the presence of God. In fact, her whole album, Hiding Place, is an AMAZING album!
Another thing that has brought me comfort in these times is opening my Bible. The two readings that have brought me so much peace and comfort this week are Psalms 34 and Psalms 91. I have been reading them daily to encourage myself and I can feel His love for me through the Word and as a result, I no longer feel so distant from Him.
I don’t know how these posts get so long but once my thoughts start flowing, I don’t know how to stop them. Just remember, you are NEVER alone, and I challenge you today: Do not suffer in silence, reach out now!
Till next time!